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I know .. I know .. I had promised several things .. several different things to several different people as the topic for my next post. But politics of life are such that some decisions have to be taken by you.. some hard decisions which may change how you live your life...

I will be dedicating this post to all my friends who are and have been in Love...!

Why the change of stance you ask ..? well to start with there never was a stance.. what I had was merely an opinion and a word of caution which I deemed fit to put on my blog as a statutory warning to all concerned. Love as I've always maintained is the best state to be in at any point of your life.

So lets start with what oxford dictionary defines love to be "deep affection or fondness" which is very vague. So I tried msn encarta. The definition it gave me goes something like this ,"transitive and intransitive verb feel tender affection for somebody" and very interestingly,"transitive verb have sex with somebody". I really don't know what transitive and intransitive verbs mean (The last time I had a wren and martin in my hand was in 5th standard) and it sure doesn't feel right to discuss it here. The definition's meanwhile are interesting ... the second definition .. [;)] .

Still, dictionaries have never been able to bring out the real meaning of any word in a particular context, so we will keep it aside for the moment. I'll recount a beautiful verse I read somewhere.

I have been astonished
that men could die martyrs for their religion -
I have shudder'd at it.
I shudder no more.
I could be martyr'd for my religion
Love is my religion
And I could die for that.
I could die for you.

-John Keats

Its said poets know Love the best and lovers do in a sense become poets and you know it is true in a weird nonsensical way. The love verses, the love letters, the proposal carefully worded... all are examples of lovers becoming poets. On a lighter note .. on re-reading those verses though.. the very verses appear silly .. nonsensical and often you would end up asking the question .. how the hell did I write/fall for such a dumb line..!

Love in different contexts assume different levels , which means that it would assume different meanings which incidentally have been put into place by us to differentiate them.

"I like you but I don't love you" ,
"My love for you was merely a high school crush",
"I love you as a friend etc etc .."

The point I'm trying to make here is, its futile to be talking about Love in general .. its too wide a topic .. I'll be talking more about the love that you tend to "fall" into ..

I had often seen in my "younger days" that people around me used to have crushes on their teachers.. ( I had one on my 6th grade teacher miss allencherry.. those were the days ..), their classmates in school and colleges and maybe perhaps their seniors. Neighborhood playmates and family friends are also some of the potential lovers, its interesting to see how each relationship takes off differently in different context's. For a junior approaching a senior is somewhat awkward, meanwhile it would be relatively easier for family friends and neighborhood playmates. But in their case they would be faced with the problem of "I've never thought of you that way" syndrome or being the butt of the neighborhood gossip. For friends there always the problem of losing a long friendship over the awkwardness that would follow the rejection. So in every case there are advantages, disadvantages and pros and cons and the strategy chosen by the guy/gal to get their feelings to the other person are different.

I really don't know where this discussion is leading so I'll shut it. I have a reputation for writing long posts so I guess it won't be much of a problem.

What my friends have taught me (when I say taught I mean through their experiences) is that love happens. you don't do it, neither can it be forced upon. Sometimes its mutual but most of the time its one of the partners who gather courage and convey the feelings at the right moment in the right way and get the right result.
A thing to note which I have found common everywhere is infighting... he he .. By infighting I mean the small fights that are true for every couple, over petty issues like "why didn't you call me yesterday" to big ones like "I think there's something going on between you and __ ". But interestingly enough this infighting is the most treasured part of their relationship. Its said that a couple that doesn't fight will not last. The "ruthna" and the "manana" is one of the best experiences and the memories that a couple carry with them. Its as if they enjoy them. Theres always the "make-up" dinner afterwards or the "good" part .. ::mg:: neways the point I am trying to make is, its almost as if that they look for fights .. small fights to get away from the idealism that their love bring for them. To break away from the monotony of bliss (I do realise I'll be questioned on the credibility of marking the state as one of bliss.. for many it may not be so... I accept dat [;)] ) It gives them a reason to celebrate afterwards. An opportunity to add some colour to their otherwise black and white life of phone calls and holding hands (I won't add more keeping in mind the sensitivities of some of my readers.)

I can say lines like "love is like the rainbow that colours up my life.. or perhaps .. love is the fuel that keeps me going etc etc . But the fact is that love is something like the air we breathe .. its special .. every bit of it is special but you don't get to savour every bit of it. The bits you savour are the ones which you crave for. Similarly with love, you don't realise its importance until you crave for it.. until you are bereft of it. Love is traditionally an integral part of life which we take for granted .. like all integral parts of life.

Its only when you fall into it that you realize its depth .. [ ;)]

"Love will keep us alive ..."

Keep Loving...

p.s. I also don't know where this article has gone .. so incase you seem a little bit confused .. don't be .. you are among friends here .. [;)]

"Love me for a reason .. Let the reason be Love..!"

"I'm in love!
Hey!
It sure feels like love.
It's got to, got to be love.
It must be love.
'Cause it sure feels like love.
It must be love.
It sure feels like love.
Yeah! Must be love.
I know it's love.
It's modern love."

Sammy Hagar in his Hit single "Feels like Love" ... Ever thought why a song with such confusing lyrics could ever be a hit .. because it displays the very confusion one feels when falling in love.

I have been told about a certain phenomenon called "Love at first sight" .. ( I do hear it has been modified to "Love at first sight/chat") . I'm also told that it has been there since time eternity.. The witches have long been stopped being burnt, voodoo is almost on a revival journey and even pagan gods are in fashion again .. but sad to say, this idiom hasn't quite lost its effect on people..!

When I look around myself today, I find unprecedented levels of confusion and chaos. I find people at a loss for words when confronted by someone they know. Greetings are mere formalities and wishing somebody makes no sense unless you are in their "inner circle". washroom gossip has given way to coffee lounge chats and love letters to sms proposals. Divorces and break-ups are as common as football matches in a season.

In this time of confusion and chaos, if the concept of "Love at first sight" holds .... I'll still give you the benefit of doubt , but would you folks be good enough to clear some of mine?

Firstly, Love itself is such a complex emotion how is it possible to decipher it, understand it and give it a meaning in such a short span of time as one glance?

Secondly, the word "LOVE" that we use with such disregard, does it hold true for most context's that we use it i? To take it further, over the years we have identified infatuation, lust,crush and many such words to define what would be a lower form of "LOVE", a psuedo-love so to speak.But while we invent new words to define our mental states, the emotions remain the same.So do you still think that the "LOVE" you feel at the first sight/glance is Love actually ..?

Thirdly, Taking from Sammy Hagar's song, sometimes it does feel like love, but we are confused. Sometime the society we live in, our friends all contribute towards emotions that are really not there. Sometimes you "have to" feel sad, or "should be" feeling happy or more importantly "are in" Love ..!
So the sleepless nights due to acidity, the stomach upset because of which you were not feeling hungry and the daydreams because of the sleepless nights would lead you to Love rather than a medicine shop.
So essentially speaking .. are you really sure that you are really in Love ..??

I could .. and would go on and on were it not for the drooping eyes and clouding thoughts ... What I would like to end on, though, is a positive note. There is Love out there .. there are lovers still, but not all who claim are worth their due in Love..

Think about it ..

I have often been asked about the girl of my dreams and I'm very sure that it is true for most of you reading it and I always find myself short of words. It's not that I don't have that picture of a lady of my dreams in there, but somehow I always feel that theres always that detail which I have left out.
So finally I have decided to come out into the open and tell the world what sort of a girl is my "type", what follows is strictly un-confidential you are required to maintain no discretion in whom you tell about this article. who knows the next girl you might be mentioning this seemingly "insane / crazy" article to , might be the "one".

So where do I start from ..
Firstly she occupies a significant area of my mindspace , so by PAT's (PAT for you ignorant people out there, is our cllg director Proff. Atul Tandon, affectionately called PAT by the students and faculty alike) definition, is equivalent to a brand. So all the properties associated with a brand are applicable.

Her worth ,though, unlike all other brands is infinite

Let's start with her personality .. what is she really like ?

She's young (naturally.. but after Dil Chahta hain, its important I include it) , vivacious , smart ( intelligent and smart are both different ..) , knows how to carry herself , sweet , caring , I somehow feel kind and generous go hand in hand so I will mention them in the same breath, has a sense of a work-home balance and last but not the least has an inner driving force and a calm confidence which I see lacking in most girls today( I see a lot of raised eyebrows, but its true.. look at yourselves)

That was her personality .. what does she look like ?

I would put a photograph, a sketch .. anything if it were possible to capture that one essence of beauty but it is not. The woman of my dreams, quite like yours, cannot be captured anywhere other than my mind. Even words will not do justice but I will try my best and keep it open for editing if I feel later that I might have missed something.Even a trivial thing to you might be the one thing she is incomplete without.

Have you seen water cascading down a natural staircase in some waterfalls. ever notice the gracefulness, flair and charm ? well the cascading water may well define her hair. the colour of her hair is black, indeed blacker than the night itself.

The face is a whole vertical of art in itself. Every feature chiseled in with such delicacy that it would put Michelangelo and his best works to shame.

The eyes, what do I say of them, they are a world in themselves. A pool of endless depth beckoning the looker to just dive in. They might have containing an ocean of grief or an entire rainbow with all its vibrancy, the rare captured twinkling could be mistaken for a twinkling star on a cloudy night. The colour you ask.. I would say .. a heavenly blue unlike any shade of blue ever seen, the perfect blend of cool and vibrant.

The lips.. One look and you would want to kiss them. It is not a question of how luscious they are, or if they are the perfect size, its hows they complement the face, how they pull you towards them, how hard it is to resist them ....

The neck .. for the people who don't know and might be smirking on how dumb it is to put the neck with the biggies of the beauty features like lips and eyes.. is one of the premier erogenous zones of the female body. It is also one of the most beautiful part of the body should you look at it from an artist or in my case an admirer's point of view. When I talk of the neck I talk especially about the nape of the neck. You can talk as much you like about the beautiful sunsets and sunrises, of the beauty of the endless ocean or the grandiose mountains, but nothing can be more entrancing for me than the view of her nape with her hair pushed to one side of her neck.

I won't mention her body for obvious reasons.. But it would be slim and svelte to be certain. Do I hear that slim is out of fashion these days ??? my answer .. I don't give a damn ..!!

You know for a body to be perfect there has to be a particular ratio of hip size to the upper body and yeah as you might have guessed , its just perfect..!!

Her legs would probably put zeenataman to shame (yes she was known for her beautiful legs) . those beautifully moulded pair of legs seemingly for which the famous dialogue
“ Aap ke paon dekhe, bahut haseen hai. Inhe zameen par mat utariyega. Maile ho jayenge" from pakeejah , was written .

That's her folks, the girl of my dreams, my soul mate who somewhere someplace is waiting for fate to bring us together.

So Incase you are a believer .. someone who believes in the bigger scheme of things , in fate and most importantly in Love ... please pass the message around and help bring two soulmates together ..