ReDmpTiON spEaKs ...

GENOCIDE

With the V day nearing, I thought this post would be very apt for some people, specially girls, as you will find later.

All men are pigs...

Before you start pointing fingers and accusing me of betraying my kind.. this is a standard comment made by girls all over the world, NOT me ..! But now its been so overused a comment that guys take it for granted that they would be referred to as one. But that is not the point we will be discussing. Not so long back, they were two kinds of guys. The guys who were pigs and the "nice guys". Well not much has been written about the nice guys except that everyone knows that they finish last and that would be the end of it. But off late their disappearance rate which has eclipsed that of even the most endangered of animals, has raised concerns over a world without them. As much as we would like to argue, they form an integral component of the deciding balance in the world. They help bring stability to the extreme and chaotic world. Why, you ask, well read on ...

See, for most of you reading this, you might have just witnessed or perhaps completely missed the era of the nice guys. They were everywhere and in huge numbers. But as time went on, and they kept on losing out to the "cool" guys. they thought it was high time they change. Suppose you were a girl in the nice guys era. Remember how a shy, platonic guy would tag along everywhere you went. Opened doors, give gifts, remember anniversaries, be there as a shoulder to cry upon after a fight with your boyfriend, ready to listen how men were all pigs, inspite his being one.
Remember how you would talk with your girlfriends what a moron he was. Sweet but dumb. How, maybe he was doing this because he had a crush on you. how he tagged along everywhere like a puppy dog, trying to do things to attract attention. You would all joke around and have a laugh at his expense. Maybe your girlfriends would tease you with him and you being you would have vehemently protested against any kind of feelings for him. Saying he was not your type. Heck even convincing yourself that it was so.
As time passed, you would engage in a serious relationship, leaving no time and space for him.He would then understand and phase himself out of your life.

Years later after many a broken relationship you might ask the question, "what happened to the nice guys?"
I say, "you did"

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive “just-a-” friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren’t really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you’re upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he’d have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.

Suppose you were a guy, say a "cool" guy. You used to see that shy, dumb guy presumably harmless, hanging around your girl. You would talk to your girl and ask her why she let the guy hang around her, and she would reply that he was too sweet to let go and did stuff you wouldn't. To vent out your frustration you would chide him, bully him and try to disgrace him every time you saw him, make fun of the clothes he wore, the way he walked and so on. But he would just smile back and you would feel even more angry and frustrated because there was nothing you could do. Ultimately you convinced your girlfriend to choose between the two of you, and he had to go. Some time later your girl left you for a "cooler" guy and you felt let down and cheated.

You asked yourself whatever happened to the nice guys?
I say "you did"

You tormented him, you disgraced him yet he always greeted you with a smile. He sought to tell you that the word cool was in effect relative. It was because of normal, "nice" guys like him that you were "cool" and different.

So now if you cry now and ask your self how to redeem the situation, well theres quite no way except making a time machine and going back in time. Its high time to understand that its a couple of years too late. You didn't want him back then and he sure as hell doesn't want you back now!!

Authored by an undercover "nice guy"