"The Ladies Privilege"
According to a western legend, Leap years, "common" as they might be, have certain traditions and legends associated with them. This is because leap years are seen as unusual events that disturb the otherwise orderly progression of days/months/years, and thus certain beliefs have been attached to them. (One constant in the realm of folklore and superstition is that out-of-the-ordinary events are deemed to have out-of-the-ordinary consequences or properties.) Leap years, according to folk tradition, were the only times when women could propose marriage to men, with this Leap year belief often termed "The Ladies' Privilege". Yet even within this hypothesis there was disagreement as to how far it went — a great many of those who encountered this custom did not see it as applicable throughout the length of a leap year, but only to the extra day itself; that is, only to February 29.
The origins of "The Ladies' Privilege" are not definitively known, but one posited beginning set in Ireland had St. Bridget complaining to St. Patrick about women not being able to ask the men they fancied to marry them. According to the folktale, he offered the opportunity at a seven-year interval, and she bargained him down to four. (If this tale is true, it's no wonder St. Patrick took to putting the run on snakes, because he sure wasn't doing well against women.)
Though everyone loves a good folktale, the beginning of this custom more likely has to do with February 29 being perceived as a day that does not properly belong on the calendar and thus as a period when the ordinary rules of conduct do not apply.
In earlier days of Western society, relations between the sexes were far more formal and scripted, with each gender being expected to adhere to its assigned roles. When it came to proposing marriage, men did the asking and women did the accepting or declining — the other way around would have been unthinkable. Thus a leap year reversal of this ordinary state of things would be seen as "normal" so to speak.
Unlike in earlier times, there is now no societal prohibition against women being the ones to ask on bended knee. Custom, however, still continues to favor men doing the proposing, but its happening the other way around is no longer seen as shocking or as a challenge to the right
way of things. Its just remains to be seen how we evolve as a society and whether we Men will be able to retain the right to propose to girls or be relegated to proposing on just the 29th February. Life usually comes a full circle and evolves in cycles .. I hope in this particular situation it proves to be an exception..
There are somethings money can't buy .. for everything else..
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ahaa....thats smthin new...
all the reasonin and logic...but then any day is as gud or bad as other.....
he he .. so it is ..!! But please do not let logic come in the way of our experiencing the subtle joys of mythology and legends..!
Well this leap year passed by ..
lets wait for next...n see who s ganna propose me!
;)
lol
yeah I know of this, my English Teacher in school told us this...
I guess its not applicable to Feb 29 only, but all the days in the leap year...
pretty new concept for me....
there is master card
Leap Year began with me telling my crushes that I had a crush on them.. maybe I am a desendant of that lady who bargained with St. Patrick :)
hehehe.. on the last para.. I sure hope this is an exception ;)
Actually I love legends LIke these... um! cool.. thats for sharing this one..!
cool...if it takes so much thought to let those three words reach the tongue from the heart....we will be doomed
he he .. aint we doomed already ..??
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